The rocking chair
Turns out there was room enough for both of us
I had given Andover to my daughter. That’s how I understood it.
This town where my mother grew up, where my grandparents are buried, where I walked the bird sanctuary trails as a child — I had handed it over. She needed it more than I did. When I felt my grandparents at the chapel telling me we’ve got her, she’s safe here, I heard it as confirmation. This place was hers now. Not mine.
I carried that belief with me for over a year.
After the news of my departure was made public, after my last day, during a year-long sabbatical where my children stayed on at the school I had left, we started planning our move.
We thought we might move to Arlington, where my sister lives. We placed an offer on a house we loved. It wasn’t accepted.
One of my uncles, an architect, said: you should really consider Andover. Sidewalks, walkable, nice downtown.
We laughed. Absolutely not. My daughter would kill us for moving to the town where she went to school. The whole point was that she wanted to be away.
But we started looking anyway. And the same week we were up visiting houses, something happened.
We got a notification that the home my great-great-grandparents had built in 1895 was for sale. We took my mother to see it. She had grown up visiting her own grandfather there.
It was such a beautiful thing, walking through that house. Three generations of us standing in a place that held more than a century of our family. And also, it was clear: this wasn’t going to be our house.
Then another house came on the market. Built in 1914. Lovingly renovated. I walked in the front door and knew.
The wood. The light. The way it was designed. And there, off to one side — a corner office. A room of my own. With a door that closed.
This is it, I said. This is the house for us.
The real estate agent gave me a look. Yeah. You and everybody else.
As we left that house, on our way to see another, my husband pulled over. We were in two cars — he was ahead, I was behind. I didn’t understand why he’d stopped. We were in a rush.
He got out and walked back to me. Did you see the chair? Your grandmother’s chair?
I backed up the car.
On the curb was a little painted rocking chair. A child’s rocking chair. The kind my grandmother used to paint.
It was just sitting there on the side of the road. My husband had spotted it from the car ahead and pulled over because he recognized it — not the specific chair, but the type. The gesture. The hand of my grandmother in it.
Standing in the rain holding that little chair, something shifted.
I thought back to the flying dream — soaring toward my grandmother’s yard, her quiet oh good, you’ve come. The butterfly in the nature sanctuary. The wave of presence at the chapel. The plane that didn’t nosedive, the trees that slowed it down, the warm room that was waiting.
I had heard we’ve got her and believed it was only about my daughter.
But the ancestral house coming on the market the same week we were looking. The rocking chair — my grandmother’s kind of chair, on a curb, in the rain, spotted by my husband from a car ahead of me. The corner office behind a door that closed.
These were for me, too.
I had spent a year believing I had sacrificed this place. The way mothers do — instinctively, without discussion. You hand over the thing you love because your child needs it more than you do.
And I was right about part of it. I did give this place to my daughter. She is here. She is safe. My grandparents are looking after her.
But what I got wrong was the rest. I thought we’ve got her meant you’re on your own. I thought being released meant being left behind.
We got the house. It was in perfect condition. We moved in in June.
I sit in my corner office now and write to you from the town where my mother grew up, where my grandparents are buried, where my daughter goes to school, where a little painted rocking chair appeared on a rainy curb the moment I needed it most.
I didn’t give this place away after all.
I was just a little late to the game.
🕊️
SAM




Love this. Sending big hugs to you and your whole family.