I remember in my late teens/early 20’s, at times when I was in leadership roles with peers in college or colleagues in the early days of my career, people read that leadership and twisted it to “I can see you’re going to make a great mom.” At the time, that landed wrong for me…I was nowhere near ready for kids, and it felt bad. Interesting that this link (mom-leader/leader-mom) can be incorrectly spun in more than one way.
I don't like when my husband calls me mom too as it makes me feel as if my pre-parent identity has been erased. The boundaries and all the other things you mentioned really resonates too!
I remember in my late teens/early 20’s, at times when I was in leadership roles with peers in college or colleagues in the early days of my career, people read that leadership and twisted it to “I can see you’re going to make a great mom.” At the time, that landed wrong for me…I was nowhere near ready for kids, and it felt bad. Interesting that this link (mom-leader/leader-mom) can be incorrectly spun in more than one way.
Definitely an important distinction to make. Thanks Sarah!
I don't like when my husband calls me mom too as it makes me feel as if my pre-parent identity has been erased. The boundaries and all the other things you mentioned really resonates too!
Clarity about boundaries is good for us all.
I am placing the reminder of:
Not everyone’s needs are mine to meet.
Not everyone’s problems are mine to solve.
Not everyone gets access to the part of me I reserve for my children.
In my office. This was such a beautiful reminder of boundaries. Thank you for this! 🤍